I like to be alone. Sometimes I feel stimulated spending time with others, but it’s not necessary to interact. If I need to go out, I just drop in on Fiona, and no matter the nature of her plans for that evening I invite myself along, and she will inevitably say ok because she is one of those people who can’t say no because she has low self-esteem and must please everyone at all times.
Everyone else thinks, “Why is he even here, he’s not even friends with us, Fiona always brings these weirdos along,” and they’ll get angry at Fiona even, and she’ll pick up on it since she’s super emotional tuned-in.
Becoming self-aware may mean discovering aspects of yourself that you didn’t notice before, like, that you’re double-jointed or divorced. Looking through old photos can be a great window into your relationships—a big piece of the self-awareness puzzle. Study the body language of the people in the photos with you. Do they seem to like you, or are they glaring at you and hitting you? Are there any pictures of you whitewater rafting? This can be a huge help in determining whether or not you like doing that.
Self-awareness can also be the gateway to personal change. If you want to quit smoking, for example, you have to know that you’re a smoker first, so look down at your hand and see if there’s a cigarette there. If not, then what is that in your hand? A gun? What are you, some kind of murderer?